They took the kids

[houghchrst]

B and his GF just had their kids taken and placed in foster care and it took less than 36 hours. The youngest boy had a seizure in the tub while my son was watching him, mom at work and of course the dominos spilled from there.

[tic chick]

oh chris !

i feel so sorry for your b. did the boy ever have a seizure before?

i hope they settle this one quick, because they can see the kids are okay and someone is caring for them. it could have happened to anyone.

just support b and his gf and hope the kids are back home soon.

jeannie

[dawnmn]

That's too bad. Hopefully they can get them back soon. I'll pray that they do.

[houghchrst]

after this seizure they are kind of wondering if some of his behaviors may have been some kind of seizure before. He's having some tests run and so far a cat scat shows no seizure activity. I called their worker and asked how I could help, she asked me what I wanted to do and I told her I wanted to bring them all home and she is going to speak with her supervisor and we'll see what happens at the end of the day Monday.

B is in hysterics because she has decided that she has to get rid of him to get her kids back. She's too afraid to come up here, afraid of being abandon supposedly. So I told B to sleep on it and if he wants to come home then we make arrangements.

[joy]

i hope they return those children home to them real soon. have you and whole family in prayers.

[Mike Weins]

Wow that sucks Monday can't come soon enough.

[Donna Thomson]

I am so sorry, my friend. I wrote a blog post about this scenario in our families - it's a terrible situation and so, so painful. Only registered and activated users can see links., Click Here To Register...
Good luck and I will say my prayers over the weekend. x Donna

[houghchrst]

Donna thank you. I think it's terrible that the medical field in general doesn't understand that some of these children that are mobile and with Little's issues are just more likely to skin a knee, bump their heads, bruise continually yet every minor scrape is seen as the results of abuse. My son was terrified that something like this would happen while he was left alone with him. Her family has made horrible accusations about both of them.

Thank you everyone, we are hoping that this weekend will clear up their personal issues so they can provide a united front on Monday.

[Earth Mother 2 Angels]

((((((Chris))))))

Can B describe the seizure? Perhaps some of us here with experience with seizures might be able to help. A CAT scan won't tell much about seizure activity, just rule out potential causes, such as brain tumor, and it is standard hospital procedure for any patient, who has had a seizure to have a CT scan. An EEG would be helpful.

I'll be sending up prayers that all is resolved Monday.

Love & Light,

Rose

[houghchrst]

B said that little man stood up from playing in the tub and then kind of slumped against the wall with his eyes rolled back in his head as he slumped down into the water. B got him out then ran for help while trying to call 911 then he and the neighbors waited for the ambulance. The child is 5 and diagnosed autistic, possibly aspergers but his being so young it's kind of hard.

B is now totally out of the picture as far as the DFCS dept. is considered. He is on no contact order for the kids. She has to find a better place to live and a new sitter then they will consider giving the kids back to her but my son has to be out of the picture. I pray that none of her family is given care.

He is heartbroken and distraught. She of course has chosen her children and has totally blocked off brandon. Not even doing it herself, having a friend tell him. He never got a goodbye. He thought they were a family.

he wants to go to the hearing Monday to at least be able to plead his case and defend himself but he may not be allowed. I have told her that they can live here, she is guaranteed a job less than a mile away and B can stay at his grams and do classes whatever they want. She's kickin herself for not coming up here way back when I warned them this would happen. Hopefully we can transfer the case. She hasn't answered my will she come if I can get it transferred so I hope she is mulling it over.

poor B is totally lost as to what to do. He wants to go t o the hearing and show a united front instead of leaving but then if he shows up it may show the court that she is not trying. To hear the lies the EMTs put in the medical records is terrible. Their whole child protective system is very easy to get into and very hard to get out of. Even married couples are made to choose between husband or kids.

[Earth Mother 2 Angels]

((((((Chris & B))))))

Since the little guy has been diagnosed with a neurological disorder, it should come as no surprise to any medical professional or social worker that he had a seizure. And in the tub is a common location for a seizure to occur.

What did B do, according to DFCS, to warrant a no contact order? He certainly didn't cause the child to seize. He was supervising the child, captured him before he drowned, called 911, engaged the neighbors to help him. That sounds like he did everything properly, and even saved the child's life. What is DFCS's justification for shutting out and/or blaming B?

I'm wondering whether it would be helpful for B to submit a written document to the hearing officials, in which he describes exactly what occurred from beginning to end on that date, include any findings at the ER where the little guy was taken, and refute each lie told by the EMTs. I don't know whether he'd be allowed to submit that, nor whether he might be in more trouble for showing up at all, since he's a persona non grata now in their eyes.

He should have some kind of due process. Are there any advocacy groups in their area for children with disabilities, or autism, or special needs? An advocacy group/agency might counsel and advise, attend the hearing with her or him or both, and would know their rights with regard to their children and the reach of the DFCS. You might be able to find advocacy groups for their general area or nearest metropolitan area or even for their state via a Google search. Then, make some phone calls.

As Donna wrote in her blog post, falsely accusing parents of children with special needs with child abuse is all too common. We need more advocates to help us battle this misperception and to educate professionals about the frailty and vulnerability of special needs children.

Sending prayers ~

Love & Light,

Rose

[joy]

still in prayer for all of you

[alex44]

Having been in the SYSTEM myself, I will pray for everyone involved. CPS, is a joke, and a bad one at that. Yes, SOMETIMES they get it right but that is the exception rather then the rule. If I'm not being too personal, Had they been involved before? If not, why did they just grab the child? My heart goes out to you folks and your families. the only advice I can offer is for mom to be at EVERY hearing and request ALL records and take names,times of who she speaks to. If the EMT's put a bunch of crap in the notes, Get copies and YOU have the right to put your own letter in (under HIPPA).
Good Luck
Bless the little one - I have been in the system and foster homes can be ( put your own language here) not good.
Blessings
Alex44
Skypilot

[joy]

hoping to see it allresolved soon and for children to be back with parents. hoping for b to stay as strong as he can during this trying time. not good for anyone. i know you want them all back home with you, you have a big heart. i know how it is with loving grandchildren as well.

[houghchrst]

Ahh and there's the big problem. Yes, her family has been tormenting her and B for about a year. These are people, her mother mainly who follow them to the morning school bus stop and she yells about her precious grandbabies and their meth head mother, yelling about how my son is a crack head and prostitutes her out. That the babies are being mistreated. This is in front of other parents and their children. Pill popper, junkie, meth. I have no clue how she got out. Well ......... this time was B. She did it herself the first time got them babies from their abusive father.

Someone in her family keeps claiming her kids on their taxes. IRS finally catching up. My son has been assaulted by her brother. Now some psychos from her work are causing trouble. They moved and told no one where, then her mother got the info from the school.

Things are different down there. They are living in a trailer that would have been torn down because it was considered unlivable here. They are driving a vehice that is dying and are barely getting GF to work. They are a million miles from everything and not enough money to get ahead. The police are corrupt and spent a year and a half trailing my son around "town" because he was from Flint, MI. woo hoo big crime boss stuff going on LOLOL.

Something is cooking, she goes back to court Friday to find out whether the kids go back. They have cleaned the trailer and spent beaucoup bucks on a bunch of stuff to take care of roaches.

B is coming home Friday. His grandmother offered to go down and get him. I was going to make him ride the bus and just before I could purchase he called letting me know his g-ma would come down. He says he has something to tell me but he cant say it over the phone, nothing bad. Great! I have a feeling that as soon as she gets the kids back she will follow. She got approved for a transfer up within her company here a while back and sad to say they all kind of know what is going on.

Brandon is not the bio or even adoptive parent so he has no say. the court doesnt want to hear from him because he has no rights when it comes to the charges. Those are her children, she chose him to babysit therefore it is her fault. He has a no contact order and thats it.

Little man needs extensive working with and socialization. They are too far and too broke to get him where he needs to get help. Their hospitals are dinky and the only way you can get to a major hospital like in Atlanta seems like the other side of the country for them. Here they can get help and her work is less than a mile straight on from us.


It's all just very sad but I will be happy when it all gets resolved. Thank you everyone for your prayers and input especially since I have been gone so long. I just get to writing and it gets sso long so I have kind of laid off.