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    An Ah-Ha Moment in our Family Life - How the Penny Dropped about Nick's Seizures

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    SEIZURES THEN AND NOW - THE PENNY DROPPED!
    When Nick was a baby, he was a terrible sleeper. He would doze off and suddenly, his arms would fling themselves outward, his legs extending and he would scream. We called this his 'startle' reflex and put it down to Nick being Nick. When he was tiny, we found it helped to keep him swaddled tightly, so that the jerks were contained.... I remember that at the cottage, we put a sign on the hallway door, "Quiet, Baby sleeping...lightly!" Any tiny sound would result in a startle and then a scream. It never occurred to any of us that his behaviour might actually be a seizure disorder.

    Then, when Nick was about 7, he had his first orthopaedic surgery. It was a lengthening of his heel cords and adductor muscles. The doctor in London suggested casting him afterwards in a 'broomstick' style paster, with both legs open wide and a pole wedged in between to keep the position stable. His feet were cast as well, with his feet at 45 degrees in order to allow the heel cords to maintain their stretch. When Nicholas came home after that surgery, he began to have terrible symptoms, but only during sleep. He would be sleeping peacefully when, suddenly, his casted legs would jerk up into the air and he would scream terribly until we turned on the light and firmly woke him up. During the worst times, this would repeat itself every 3 to 5 minutes. Only during waking hours was he somehow free from these terrible episodes. Finally, Nick became so exhausted and ill that he was readmitted to hospital for telemetry tests. A camera was put on Nick and when the neurologist viewed it, she diagnosed frontal lobe seizures. The surgeon recommended removing the cast two weeks early. When the cast came off, pressure sores down to the bone were revealed on both his heels. Poor Nick, his heels looked like white jelly. We were transferred to Great Ormond St. Hospital and the overnight test was repeated, but no seizure activity was seen on the tracing. Everyone was mystified by the events and we were sent home to have daily nursing visits for almost a year in order to fully heal the pressure sores on Nick's feet.

    Fast forward to this year. We now have a diagnosis of nocturnal seizures and we know that Nick's arm jerks during sleep are, in fact, seizure activity. Last night, the nurse reported 16 or more jerky movements AND Nick being disturbed by any small sound or movement.

    Sometimes it takes a lifetime of staring at someone you love to understand what is happening to them, especially if that person is medically complex and non-speaking. I can't help but wonder how our lives would be different if we had known to medicate Nick's seizures when he was young. So much of what Jim and I battled was sleep deprivation.... I know that hindsight is 20/20 and that we did our best, but it is bittersweet to wonder.
    Donna, Mum to Natalie (22), ablebodied, kind and beautiful and Nicholas(26), severe CP, non-verbal, tube fed, multiple surgeries, chronic pain, happy kid except when the Liverpool football club or the Ottawa Senators Hockey Team are losing!
    Check out my blog: http://www.donnathomson.com


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    ((((((Donna & Nick))))))

    When Nick was diagnosed with frontal lobe seizures after the telemetry tests following his surgery, was he placed on AED's for his seizures then? And you are wishing that you had known that he was seizing when he was a baby? Forgive me for asking these questions, but I just want to be sure that I understand.

    You are so right about hindsight, and those feelings of bittersweetness in wondering "what if?" As much as we may yearn to go back and change things, we can't undo what is done. It's unproductive for us to beat ourselves up for "not knowing" something. We're parents, we aren't medically trained professionals. And when our children were babies, we had no idea about any of the things we now know.

    You and Jim have always done your very best for Nicholas, and he knows that. You didn't sit on your hands; you advocated for him and ensured that he received excellent care and treatment. And you still do this for Nicholas. Most importantly, you provide Nicholas with the most essential ingredient in a blessed life ~ love.

    Our boys have medical issues without simple fixes, sometimes defying diagnosis, and generally complicated to treat. That is a truckload to take on as a parent, and all we can do is keep learning and absorbing so that we can better help our sons.

    While I have no point of reference, because both of my sons were born with neurological impairments, it seems to me that parents of children with special needs have to go beyond the general parameters of parenthood. We have to become nurses, diagnosticians, therapists, educators, advocates, researchers, scientists, lawyers, and we have to become the voice of our children.

    That is a LOT to take on, as you know. And among all of the parents of special needs children, whom I've met in person and on line, I don't know a single one, who doesn't reflect with regrets, guilt, and/or recriminations on what they didn't know then, but know now.

    I know that I do, times two, especially since my boys were born, before the medical advances and technology of the past 30 years. My list of "if only ..." is quite lengthy.

    Now you know for certain that Nick is having nocturnal seizures, so what options are being considered to control them?

    Just to let you know, Jon's and Michael's seizure disorders are sleep related. It's fairly common, as I recall, among persons with epilepsy. And Jon occasionally has jerky arm movements during sleep, which started after he was given Reglan in the hospital in 2005, against my wishes. Jon actually flails his arms and hits his chest. We fear that he will break a rib, so if he gets really wild, we use wrist restraints to tie down his arms. We allow plenty of movement, just not enough to reach his chest. Thankfully, he hasn't done that for awhile, probably because he's toxic on Dilantin.

    I will pray that you find an answer to ending Nick's nocturnal seizures. Poor Nick has been through too much in his life. But look at his spirit and that smile! Nothing keeps him down! He's awesome! Please give him our love and some hugs and kisses from us. And save some for you and Jim.

    Love & Light,

    Rose
    Mom to Jon, 49, & Michael, 32, born with an undiagnosed progressive neuromuscular disease. Angel Michael received his wings in 2003. Angel Jon received his wings in 2019. In 2020, Jim, their Dad, joined them.

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      #3
      Hi Rose! Well, Nick's first seizure was on his first day of his special needs preschool - the poor sweetie was only 2 and 1/2 years old and I guess the stress got to him. He fell asleep suddenly in his high chair and they couldn't wake him up. Because the doctor couldn't tell us if he would ever have another one, we decided against meds then. But it was 1993 when he had a grand mal at home and he we got the dg of epilepsy so tegretol was started to good effect. After the surgery in London, we didn't change the meds because nothing showed on the EEG (but the cast had come off the day before). Sensory information like casts, we know now, are a seizure trigger for Nick, plus he had the pain (another huge seizure trigger) of the pressure sores. But I think he felt relief from removal of the cast which is maybe why he didn't seize on the night of the study in Gt. Ormond St. Hospital. Now, we have a definite diagnosis of nocturnal seizures with the odd waking one. He's on a higher dose of Tegretol plus keppra. Thank you for your loving and thoughtful response, as always, Rose. Wishing you, Jon and Jim and very Happy Easter this Sunday. Lots of love, Donna
      Donna, Mum to Natalie (22), ablebodied, kind and beautiful and Nicholas(26), severe CP, non-verbal, tube fed, multiple surgeries, chronic pain, happy kid except when the Liverpool football club or the Ottawa Senators Hockey Team are losing!
      Check out my blog: http://www.donnathomson.com

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        #4
        Wow I try not to but do always wonder about the "what ifs" as you both said I have a long list also. I missed those early signs of strokes in Kathleen. For as long as I can remember she woke up crying every morning. She would not be fully awake and would wimper and cry until she fully woke up. We just thought is was her way of waking up, it seemed harmless. I now believe she was experiencing the changes in blood pressure which in someone with Moyamoya can actually cause a stroke, so at the very least she was most likely haveing a headaches. She in fact ahd a stroke in her sleep after she was diagnosed. She woke up and could not use her left arm, and I was even sleeping with her and didn't know. At the time of diagnosis they said she ahd had a couple of smaller strokes we didn't even see. After her surgery to treat the moyamoya she stopped waking up crying. As I look back there were small changes that I wonder if I had caught would she have suffered the severe stroke that she did after her surgeries.Probably not because the succes of the surgery depends on how quickly you get a diagnosis and surgery. That's tough to live with given the fact that most of her dissabilities and health complications started after the strokes. She was wobbly for quite a while and I can see it now when I look back at old videos of her. this just got worse until it was a full blown stroke. Your not alone in the "what ifs" we all have them I think and try to forget them and move on but sometimes it's hard. We all want the best for our kids and try so hard to make their life happy anad healthy. If we were'nt trying so hard and didn't love our children so deeply we would not feel this unreasonable "guilt" that creeps up on us. I usually hae a good cry alone and then try to remember how happy Kathleen is and how she has made me a better person.(not to mention all the people she touches every day of her life). I know your children are wonderful gifts also and that's why we always want more for them I think.
        Thanks ladies for being here and listening to each other and making sure we all never feel alone in this...
        Mary G

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          #5
          Hi!

          Hope the higher dose of seizure meds is working well! I can relate to the regrets and guilty feelings...I feel that doctors could better educate parents of things to watch for. Caitlin's seizures became obvious around age 6, but who knows if there were things going on sooner. Her spec ed teacher at the time was thinking she had ADD as there were things going on (staring, absence type stuff) that now I realize were probably seizure activity. I feel that when she was a baby, they really really glossed over the seriousness of her condition. I was told that she might be "a little clumsy and have some trouble with math" by one neonatologist. But I didn't know all the things then that I know now....I just am glad that now I am more vocal about when I feel something is wrong. Especially with this latest stuff with her meds...today we are reducing her depakote as that level was so high. The nurse kept saying the dr was not concerned about it but when I didn't let it go at that she said we could reduce the morning dose and see. Started that this morning so fingers crossed again! :) It is so helpful to have all you other moms as role models to become a better advocate for Caitlin!!

          Lisa O.
          sigpicLisa O: mom to Caitlin (14-CP, VA shunt, seizures), Brandon (12), Tyler (10), Logan (7)...my babies are all getting so old!!

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            #6
            Oh yes, Lisa - we help each other SO MUCH!!!! I always learn something from you, Rose and everyone here on CN. Happy Easter on Sunday, everyone! And prayers for Caitlin that the med change works well. x
            Donna, Mum to Natalie (22), ablebodied, kind and beautiful and Nicholas(26), severe CP, non-verbal, tube fed, multiple surgeries, chronic pain, happy kid except when the Liverpool football club or the Ottawa Senators Hockey Team are losing!
            Check out my blog: http://www.donnathomson.com

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