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    #16
    Or occasionally I've heard about instances where for some reason the birth mother's sister (or other female relative or friend) took over the care of a baby (or small child) and put forth the story that that person was the real mother. Before there were laws about adoption in place, I think people swapped kids around informally quite often.

    My mother, for instance (born 1903), was shipped off at the age of 8 to an aunt, and there seems to have been no more contact with the birth mother (and sister) after that, even though the aunt never formally adopted my mother and never was called her mother. No legal documents about this have ever turned up. My mother's mother had had two daughters, didn't want one of them apparently, and just sent my mother packing off on a train from Chicago to NY (by herself) to spend the rest of her childhood with the aunt.

    Children got shipped around quite freely back in the day, I think--treated with very little regard for their own preferences. I've heard of others who got sent to some relative's farm so they could be extra hands there, and some were treated well but most weren't.

    SPMS diagnosed 1980. Avonex 2001-2004. Copaxone 2006-2009. Glatopa (glatiramer acetate = Copaxone) 12/20 - 3/19/24.

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      #17
      agate 1903?! She had you in middle age?
      Yet inside there is this perpetual nagging doubt;
      the feeling we are possessed by a 'subtle lack of togetherness''.

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        #18
        Yes, she did. She and my dad lived twice, you might say. Both married at about 18, had families (mother had 3 kids, dad had 1 son), got divorced, remarried, then had me. The half-siblings were pretty much grown by then though one (half) brother was only 13 and still at home. We were one of those blended famillies. I don't know how they managed it, now that I think of it, as it must have been difficult, but for the most part we all got along.
        Last edited by agate; 10-20-2025, 09:03 AM.
        SPMS diagnosed 1980. Avonex 2001-2004. Copaxone 2006-2009. Glatopa (glatiramer acetate = Copaxone) 12/20 - 3/19/24.

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          #19
          A word to those relying on AI these days, in case you haven't noticed:

          I looked up the meaning of "trespassing an employee" on AI (the maintenance person in this building has just been "trespassed"), and after I got through the useful information AI helpfully provided, I noticed the tiny print at the bottom: "AI responses may include mistakes."
          SPMS diagnosed 1980. Avonex 2001-2004. Copaxone 2006-2009. Glatopa (glatiramer acetate = Copaxone) 12/20 - 3/19/24.

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            #20
            I use AI quite a lot. I could do the research myself, but AI puts things together in a far more organised way than I would ever be able to do (I have moderate executive dysfunction,especially when it comes to organising and planning). I was aware of that tiny print, but thanks for mentioning it.

            So far it's proving to be worse than it was last year re SAD. Quite a lot of emotionally painful reminiscing, and tearfulness. Feelings of being a failure.
            Yet inside there is this perpetual nagging doubt;
            the feeling we are possessed by a 'subtle lack of togetherness''.

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              #21
              SAD = seasonal affective disorder, I think? Does it get worse if there are more overcast days, I wonder?

              I have a friend who actually moved from the Seattle area to New Mexico (years ago) just because she found all of the dark days in Seattle so depressing.
              SPMS diagnosed 1980. Avonex 2001-2004. Copaxone 2006-2009. Glatopa (glatiramer acetate = Copaxone) 12/20 - 3/19/24.

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                #22
                You're right about SAD. Overcast days don't help. I have a mood lamp. I need to use it more. Rheumatology appointment on Friday. Think it'll be about the premature osteoporosis. I also supposedly have RA, according to my GP.
                Yet inside there is this perpetual nagging doubt;
                the feeling we are possessed by a 'subtle lack of togetherness''.

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                  #23
                  RA along with possible osteoporosis? My mother had RA. Are you taking one of the osteoporosis drugs, or won't that be in the picture?

                  I've been taking Fosamax for a couple of years now and like to think it's helping.
                  SPMS diagnosed 1980. Avonex 2001-2004. Copaxone 2006-2009. Glatopa (glatiramer acetate = Copaxone) 12/20 - 3/19/24.

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                    #24
                    Accrete D3. That's what I take.
                    Yet inside there is this perpetual nagging doubt;
                    the feeling we are possessed by a 'subtle lack of togetherness''.

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                      #25
                      Accrete D3 seems to combine calcium and vitamin D3. Many people with osteoporosis take something similar but also are told to take one of the bisphosphanates--the drugs that not only keep the bone from getting spongier but also build back some of the lost bone density. Those drugs have their risks, and there may be medical reasons why they weren't recommended for you.
                      SPMS diagnosed 1980. Avonex 2001-2004. Copaxone 2006-2009. Glatopa (glatiramer acetate = Copaxone) 12/20 - 3/19/24.

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                        #26
                        I'm supposed to be having a once yearly infusion, but it's been put on hold till my teeth are sorted out.
                        Yet inside there is this perpetual nagging doubt;
                        the feeling we are possessed by a 'subtle lack of togetherness''.

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                          #27
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                            #28
                            Originally posted by Prot View Post
                            I'm supposed to be having a once yearly infusion, but it's been put on hold till my teeth are sorted out.
                            Some of the osteoporosis drugs are given by infusion, and all of them can have serious side effects involving the jaw ("jaw necrosis"). Those are rare but I'm not surprised that the drug has to wait until any big dental problems are resolved.
                            SPMS diagnosed 1980. Avonex 2001-2004. Copaxone 2006-2009. Glatopa (glatiramer acetate = Copaxone) 12/20 - 3/19/24.

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                              Hopefully will have dentures soon.
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