Where is Kat?

[houghchrst]

Has anyone heard from PuddyKat? She hasn't posted in about a month. Dang it, if I had been here more lately I prolly would have noticed sooner.

I am going to try and message her but I have to make sure I do it right so her SO doesn't find it.

[tic chick]

chris...

kat said she is getting more apathetic and forgetful. what she posted in the alzheimer's forum was kind of a repeat of what she had said before.

i just want to send out my prayer's to her, cause i know if she was okay, she would post.

i'm hoping the hallucinations aren't bad and she is resting as much as possible.

kat, we love you and think of you everyday ...

jeannie

[houghchrst]

I am so worried about her. I cannot send an email to her regular mail, she asked specifically not to get emails cause they would be found and read and she didn't want that to happen. I have again PMed her but am getting nothing. I have no number for her. I have many from the 'just in case' discussions we had in the past but that was before her. I should have gotten it sooner. I am worried about her being in danger either from her SO or her own mental issues. I will wait for an answer to her PM for 24 hrs and then try a couple of things.

If anyone knows how to contact her. I am going to scour some of my messages from her.

[Ging]

I used to get email from her , but she said she could not write because of the strokes and was seeing someone about the hallucinations . I hope she is okay, Christina , I hope you can find out about her!, (( Ging))

[JanM]

I am so worried about her. I cannot send an email to her regular mail, she asked specifically not to get emails cause they would be found and read and she didn't want that to happen. I have again PMed her but am getting nothing. I have no number for her. I have many from the 'just in case' discussions we had in the past but that was before her. I should have gotten it sooner. I am worried about her being in danger either from her SO or her own mental issues. I will wait for an answer to her PM for 24 hrs and then try a couple of things.

If anyone knows how to contact her. I am going to scour some of my messages from her.

Check for a PM from me.

[houghchrst]

Finally I have heard from her. She is hanging in there, things are still pretty much the same. Just trying to get through her days like the rest of us. Ya'll may PM her. Big Queenie she says she has PMed you but doesn't know if you are getting them. Looks like I am gonna have to get a hold of you too. You're MIA also. Ya'll are gonna make me go door to door to find all yous missing people. That's alright hopefully after my foot surgery I just might be able to lol.

Kripes! Kat, Leo, Dee, Jo, and others. Like rats leaving a sinking ship lol. No offense lol.

[Ging]

Good , so happy she is okay, Christine I hope your foot surgery goes well! You made me smile with the " kripes" I had a friend from Chicago who used to say that, she was polish and she always made this Southern gal smile :)

[Jo6]

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Sorry, in the wrong place

[joy]

And Mal always gives good advice as well and there are many others missing as well. I hope all are doing okay.

Now Jo couldn't you have detoured and picked me up as well, LOL.

[houghchrst]

Please do not send emails to Kat. Only messages here on BT are safe for her. She asked that I not say much more than that but you can get an idea of what is going on with her by her last posts. Not so good but she is hanging in. I went through the email addy I had but made it as sterile and casual as possible while mentioning nothing, no names, places, nothing so it could have been from anyone to anyone. She finally got it much to her relief.

Big Queenie she said she has emailed you but heard nothing so I am thinking maybe ya both have old or wrong. Try it here at BT with a PM and then give her time to get to it, and then get back to you. She deletes any kind of email she gets or sends immediately. I am terribly worried about her but nothing I can do.

I am coming to see you. I don't know when but I am picking up Jeannie on the way down and this is what yer gonna see when ya open the doorOnly registered and activated users can see links., Click Here To Register... lol. Maybe I can get a couple of others that would like to come down with us. Guess I is movin' this to the ES forum lol.

[puddykat]

KAT HERE...tody

MIA too long, have to be careful, SO found out where I post, reads everything, so Delete my history for the day. See if I tolde you see shrink, have VaD, LewyBody Dementia, Parkinson. SO has been digging lately alot into symtpoms of LewyBody as hallucinations can get bad. He's using everything I do/say against me - making it I'm having a constant H. Reason being he has a girlfriend since January. Last night he got new TV, when talking to her he'd turn up volume where I couldn't sleep; long story short, didn't sleep at all; they both talked about 'she's not going to find evidence is she? No, I'll hide it where won't find it" which he did this a..m. I was awake but he made a racket in so many directions to throw me off....not about to look.
He brought a new outdoor chair in, leaned it against wall so I could see it, took it to bathroom, said loudly 'there's gotta be an easy way to open this thing'....he's been 'playing' me like this for quite awhile. I'm beginning to just put covers over my ears, can't hear him/her. He got angry one night, said he's the victim in all this.......F--K HIM!!

Stopped shrink meds after 1 1/2 mo., constant diarrhea, migraines, chest pains. SO doesn't know that tho.
Seems to not care as he usually asks if I took my meds each night. One daughter doesn't want to hear about problems with SO....other daughter just lets me vent but usually no reply.

I'd like to hire a PI etc. to bug his room, put up some type of cameras to capture what he does in his bedroom everynight. To follow him might be redundant.....he stops at bars after work but usually local ones where he wouldn't be seen w/her. He's playing her just like he played me.....

I'd like to just leave but afraid he'd change his will......lose 1/2 pension etc.....but if I don't divorce him, maybe I still get that? I have enough money to get me by for quite awhile. Let him live here, pay ALL the bills, esp. my med. bills........I'll take kitty, pay her bills....he still wants me to pay rest of house taxes while he's been saving mucho quarters, $80 a pk, and many pks.....

Ya'll get the idea....I missed you all too, but have to be careful around here; one of these days going to smack his face.....thank you for your concer, love.......love you allkat

[clouds z]

MIA too long, have to be careful, SO found out where I post, reads everything, so Delete my history for the day. See if I tolde you see shrink, have VaD, LewyBody Dementia, Parkinson. SO has been digging lately alot into symtpoms of LewyBody as hallucinations can get bad. He's using everything I do/say against me - making it I'm having a constant H. Reason being he has a girlfriend since January. Last night he got new TV, when talking to her he'd turn up volume where I couldn't sleep; long story short, didn't sleep at all; they both talked about 'she's not going to find evidence is she? No, I'll hide it where won't find it" which he did this a..m. I was awake but he made a racket in so many directions to throw me off....not about to look.
He brought a new outdoor chair in, leaned it against wall so I could see it, took it to bathroom, said loudly 'there's gotta be an easy way to open this thing'....he's been 'playing' me like this for quite awhile. I'm beginning to just put covers over my ears, can't hear him/her. He got angry one night, said he's the victim in all this.......F--K HIM!!

Stopped shrink meds after 1 1/2 mo., constant diarrhea, migraines, chest pains. SO doesn't know that tho.
Seems to not care as he usually asks if I took my meds each night. One daughter doesn't want to hear about problems with SO....other daughter just lets me vent but usually no reply.

I'd like to hire a PI etc. to bug his room, put up some type of cameras to capture what he does in his bedroom everynight. To follow him might be redundant.....he stops at bars after work but usually local ones where he wouldn't be seen w/her. He's playing her just like he played me.....

I'd like to just leave but afraid he'd change his will......lose 1/2 pension etc.....but if I don't divorce him, maybe I still get that? I have enough money to get me by for quite awhile. Let him live here, pay ALL the bills, esp. my med. bills........I'll take kitty, pay her bills....he still wants me to pay rest of house taxes while he's been saving mucho quarters, $80 a pk, and many pks.....

Ya'll get the idea....I missed you all too, but have to be careful around here; one of these days going to smack his face.....thank you for your concer, love.......love you allkat

you listed a lot of medical maladies -i hope you get better

[Jo6]

Kat, please know you are always on my mind and love from my heart. I pray all will go well with you.

All my love Miss Kittie, Jo

[houghchrst]

Kat honey if you divorce that ....man....you have every right to collect from him. Especially since he makes your life hell. You may be able to get help with medical care and possibly some alimony. It all sounds like so much work and trouble doesn't it. The house, belongings, dividing the pictures yuck. I bet your daughters would be willing to help.

I hate to ask this but have you considered assisted living? I have no clue what kind of insurance you have or how your finances are but could it be considered an option. I know it sounds like a nursing home but it is not. There are different levels of care at different locations and is based on needs but it would give you a new place to live. You would have everything you need in one place and it would be like having your own apartment. I know that is a huge step and that you are capable of taking care of yourself but I would consider it an out. No one says you have to stay but it can be a transition to a life of stability on your own. Bet your daughters would be willing to assist there also.

It must be frustrating for your daughters to care for you so much yet watch what is happening. They may be of the mind that you needed to get out a long time ago.

I really wish you would not give up on your meds, don't continue to take them if they make you sick but don't stop seeking some relief from trying others. Ugh! I hate the med rollercoaster.

[puddykat]

Jo, glad you found my post hon, love you!!! You too Christina. Update - emailed a friend thanking her for flowers, then asked if she'd heard any rumors re: SO/woman etc. She never wrote back but made sure all was deleted everywhere. 1-2 nights later, SO talking to 'her', she was shouting about getting nasty emails from people about the two of them, which proved to me I'm not hallucinating all the time, and SO's been lying to me with each denial. I never expected her to get get nasty emails! Last night she talked with him, again shouting about emails, so loud she woke me up, also sounded like she couldn't take the relatioship anymore which she had told him once before/he sweet talked her out of it. He sounded very angry probably trying to figure out how rumor got started. Hope she's gotten smart. I know noone will admit it unless it a guy friend.

If I go into one of those assisted living places, which they have in town where we used to live, would be great, some place I can take my cat, won't leave her w/SO!! Don't know if that's where gov't steps in leaves SO w/1 vehicle, $75,000, home/contents. I won't need a car, don't dare drive anymore unless a short distance.

Oldest daughter doesn't want to be bothered by my problems. Youngest just opposite, probably would help. SO just wants money. I have plenty in Saving he can't touch even tho he has POA......bank now requires a written letter/signed by me for him to get it, good only once a year!!! Anything in this house he'd probably try to sell, lots of expensive things we collected.

Have to go, SO never wrote back from work, don't trust he won't walk in door. More Monday. Love to all and thanks so much for your help!!!!!love, kat