What's Happenin'

[Deedeelyn]

You crack me up Chris!

[Buttons2]

it's a winter wonderland here! got another 4" of snow this morning. and a big storm coming tomorrow if the talking heads on TV are right. birds are so fat it's a wonder they can fly.

furnace clunked out in my trailer @ 5am & the noise woke me from a deep sleep & I actually managed to hurt my shoulder jumping out of my bed so quick! repair guy should be here this afternoon. I do have an electric heater to use for now.

my friend just called & she has 8" at her place & her TV satelite isn't working cause of the snow pack. (she tends to call when she's bored). we are planning to see the new Stephanie Plum movie next week & celebrate her birthday. I hope the movie will be as good as the book!

Chris,I'm bored senseless myself but just can't get into cleaning. as for the gardening? might try what I do now,get some big galvinized water troughs,no bending over! we filled ours with plastic pipes to avoid needing a ton of soil,and they already have a valve to release water. I've gotten some @ yard sales.

Dee,good to see you posting!

Joy,you need to check in before we send a posse out.

guess I missed Betty White's 90th BD party on TV. she's such a kick. I still watch reruns of Golden Girls.also didn't get to see the Golden Globes but I did see the fashions on E! this morning. cannot imagine that type of glamour myself.

I'm on a kick of reading books by Irish author's lately,Maeve Binchy & Luanne Rice

also,had a weird experience this morning when watching the Today show. had a HS gal on with a movement disorder & tourette's. I used to jerk from myoclonus,haven't done it bad in a long time. well I began jerking just watching that poor girl! and the show made me mad cause they had a shrink on there babbling about how the condition is real but perhaps from a psych reason than something else? apparently a dozen girls from the same small school in NY are all experiencing these awful symptoms.weird eh?

[tic chick]

hey all!

pati, that's why i do not watch tv shows about tourette syndrome! it makes me tic 10X worse then i usually do. and i'm sure that's psychological, but the girl's in one school all having the same symptoms? that is weird. i don't know the exact ratio of people who have ts...too many conflicting numbers and definitions...but roughly 1 in 200 people in the usa. so for there to be a dozen girls in the same school who have ts would be quite a coincidence. the brain is a pretty powerful organ and i've heard where things have happened in other places where one person gets something and then all of a sudden a lot more people have it...and i don't mean like the flu. so i do tend to think that there is something psychological going on there.

chris! you are a hoot! i was thinking of spring the other day too, when you posted that sweetpea died. i've been searching around for a vine with flowers that i can grow up the lattice behind my rose bush. i bought two big urns that look heavy but are made of some lighter composite material. i was thinking of digging them halfway into the ground in front of the lattice and planting the vine inside the urns and letting it climb up the lattice. when you mentioned sweetpea, i looked it up cause i knew it was a flower, but what i found out was that it's a vine! so, i am going online to order some sweetpea seeds and start them growing early so i can plant them in the spring. i will do this in honor of your "sweetpea".

i am surprised that we haven't had much snow this season at all. they officially said that 2011 was the wettest year in detroit since 1888 (or when records started being kept). seems like this season might be the one with the least snow maybe.

mal, thanks for your reply. i probably stated that wrong...i know love takes time to happen and that's good, because it's serious business . what i meant by instant chemistry was that i had to have an initial feeling of liking someone in some way. if the first coffee goes okay, i go out on a second date. that's when i see if i'm having fun with the person in whatever we're doing, if i feel i like his personality, his looks...the whole package. i have to say only 2 of my dates have made it past round 2 . now a guy doesn't have to be handsome, but i have to like some physical feature, like his eyes . oh and chris, i know you will appreciate this ...i have taken 2 dates out on cold days to belle isle to play frisbee with them (they were warned), just to see if they could keep up with me, or if they wimped out after 10 minutes and said, "oh, it's too cold to be outside." separating the men from the boys there...lmao.

dee, i hope you are managing to keep on an even keel...keep doing things that make you happy. i know your son's problems are weighing heavy on your mind....give yourself a little extra tlc . and leo, i hope you are slowly getting better! i had this lower back to butt muscle i had pulled in MAY 2010! the pain finally went away sometime this winter! it does take a long time to heal. i worked through it last summer, cause i had SO MUCH frikking dirt to move to make the yard even and start planting. i don't know if that helped or hindered the healing, but i felt i had no choice. i thought if it was gonna hurt whether i shovelled that dirt or not, i might as well shovel it. that is more or less my personal philosophy on life now

julia, i haven't seen you in a few days...i hope maybe you're getting some answers from those docs. and joy and dawn, i miss you both too! to clouds, i'm sorry you're having such a rough time with your neighbors. some people are rude. i hope you're still keeping in touch with your cousin, though. and bob...have you deserted us now that football is over? hey jan .

my oldest child, my only son, turns 34 tomorrow. i feel so sorry for his generation, because the dream that i was able to fulfill in getting married and buying a house and having children and struggling with bills has not trickled down to his generation yet. so many of his friends aren't married or living on their own, either. but, i love my son. he has a great sense of humor. he has been THE constant male presence in a little boy's life who just now has a real dad at age 9. he has many friends that he's known since high school and takes a blind friend places that he needs to go. he helps the parents of his friend's fix their houses, does yardwork and other stuff just to help. he has worked since he's been 16. he has never spent one night in jail, gotten more than a speeding ticket, or taken drugs. i am so proud of the man he is and that he is a part of me.

and now for a good cry, cause that's the kind of day it is...but i'm still MOVING ON tomorrow!

thank you all for sharing and caring ,
jeannie

[LeoX3]

Pati, did anyone ask if those girls might have all been exposed to a similar toxin?... Makes me wonder!
Jeanne, yeah, time to just "shovel" it! I know I will be a lon gtime recovering... today is a horrible day, both sides of the butt spasmed overnight b/c I overdid a teeny bit yesterday... but my rehab doc is optimistic this will get well enough that I can someday sit in chairs and sleep through nights and allthat, so I am staying hopeful:)

OK, I HAVE to tell you all this. My BFF's DH quit his job Dec. 1 WITHOUT TELLING HER b/c he thought he'd have another job... Only he TURNED DOWN the other job! AFTER he'd quit the first one! ACK!!! And I was flippy because my hubby is quitting his, with another job lined up! Talk about perspective check!

I am sooo lonely. I didn't realize how isolated I've been with this injury till yesterday. BFF called, and then a friend visited---the first ot do so since NOVEMBER...Yet I never thought of myself as having few friends....I guess just not very good ones? :( Oh well, got Mom (sobering up) and Hubby (calming down) and you all:)

GOtta go ice my lower spine. Awful nerve pain, like fire ants stinging me. EEEEK

Love to all,
Leo

[Buttons2]

well so far this snow is NOT a pleasant experience. was very pretty at first. now it's a huge mess & can't wait for it to be gone. we have about 8" now.

the furnace guy managed to tear up the parking area. then the furnace stopped working again not long after he left. I'm rather upset to say the least. could have bought a new furnace for what the repairs are costing! it's cold here but hopefully no more snow!

right now I'm watching some very fat quails that have discovered all the good eating here. even had a coyote last night. the deer eat at night.

yes,the school claims to have done everything possible to look for a reason those young women all came down with similiar symptoms. since I'd never actually seen anyone jerk around like I used to do I was shocked how watching it made my own body react.grateful I didn't get Tourette's as well.

in this area we plant sweetpea's in Feb. not so sure that is still the norm with all the weird weather these days however. I'm talking plant outside. and Jeannie there are MANY varieties,not all smell wonderful nor do they all climb. I think I'll get some seeds also!

Leo,things aren't going great for you right now but I just know it will all get better before long! do you think the BFF's marriage will survive her DH quiting a job without telling her?

Jeannie,you are blessed to have such a good son. as for the dating? you've probably got some kind of list made up of qualities you insist upon,however the freesbie one was a surprise to me.you're too funny!

gotta get my doggie outside for some exercise,she runs in the tire tracks like a greyhound! cat is not too happy right now & having to use a litter box which doesn't make me happy.

[tic chick]

pati,

they have diagnosed those girls in the school with something called "mass hysteria". it's an interesting phenomenon and has been seen before. if you google it, you'll prolly find something about it in wikipedia.org.

yeah pati, both the guys that i played frisbee with had knee surgery for a torn acl (anterior cruciate ligament). now, i know that's quite common in sports and usually happens when people overdo things after not doing much for awhile. what are the chances both had that same problem ? but, they were limping right when they started, but both did not complain and played a good half hour of frisbee with me :). so they passed that test . alas, one i met when he had just retired at age 54 from being an air traffic controller and he moved to cleveland to be a grandpa to his soon to be born grandchild. i wish i would have gotten to know him better. the other one is still around and i have dated him twice, looks like he might be around for awhile .

sorry about your furnace...bummer right in the middle of a snowstorm!

jeannie

[LaBella]

Good morning ladies.

Just checking in and letting you know the status of my daughter's pain problems. I called the neurologist after calling quite a few and being told that nothing was available til April, I found a place that could give her an appointment this week, we went yesterday, the funny part is that they told me the only doctor that had an available appointment was called Oyegbile, here my mind was running that I would be dealing with some Indian or African man that was going to be very difficult to understand, since I have an accent. Well let me tell you, the doctor is a female, young person of Nigerian descendant but born here, no accent on her part, she was very nice and for the first time in years, we had a doctor that actually spend more than 10 minutes with you, she asked all sort of questions did all sort of silly test and checked everything that she had. Came back with some very interesting diagnosis. She says that B has a NEUROPATHY DISORDER, but also that due to what B is describing, what she saw on the silly tests and with her history, she thinks B has a CONVERSION DISORDER. I had to look that one up and found out that it is a psychological disorder that develops in people that has gone to very traumatic events on their lives, it develops on children and even though it is psychological related, the neuropathy is real and a product of the conversion disorder. So now she has to go get an EMG test done, which she warned it was going to be very painful, and has to go see a psychiatrist to start treating the other issue.

So everything comes back to what happened 3 years ago and the residues of the sexual abuse. This is really frustrating, but at least we are moving forward with a diagnosis that I can live with.

Please keep us all in your prayers.

[Deedeelyn]

Labella,

So glad you were able to find a good doctor. I'm keeping you and your daughter in my prayers. First step is the diagnosis ,now the hard work begins but I know with your support she will be able to handle this. Best wishes,

Dee

[houghchrst]

Bella I am so sorry your daughter has to go through this but I am glad you got a diagnosis and it can be treated. You're a great mom so I am sure you all will get through this. I don't know where they will be doing her EMG, I had mine done on my lower legs and ankles and yes it was excruciating. I hope her doctor will be more caring and careful than mine was.

Jeannie you are so very sweet. I love sweetpea and have some neighbors that have the similar Everlasting Pea growing wild around their little bit of the pond behind me. Thinking of snatching some up and planting it down my way lol.

Pati I had seen that the weather was so miserable out your way. I am glad nothing too serious for you. Got your heat back on yet out there in your mini home? Two days ago it rained all day here and then next thing I know I look out the window and we are getting huge puffy snowflakes. The rain was still trying to drip off of the trees and was leaving little frozen drips hanging from everything. Then the next day the wind howled and blew the snow all over the place. It has been freezing cold ever since.

Dee I am glad to see you checking in more often. Have you heard from any of your family regarding the therapy session? I hope you can get all the cooperation you need. Also lots of prayers for your son that things go well.

Oh man Leo, I cannot imagine the ridiculous pain you have been going through. Not being able to sit I just can't fathom. I hope things start progressing a bit faster for you. Lots of ((((hugs)))) I'll forgo the pat on the butt for rallying ya 'round.

Clouds it is good to see you posting more often and saying more. I like that you have stuck with us. :o

My oldest is still in Georgia with his dad of course. I talk to him every day or every other. I don't remember if I told you guys that a few months ago he was walking home from a friends house where they had been doing plenty of under age drinking, and he was with two girls who were on his way but lived a bit farther. So of course the girls are being loud and laughing, dancing around and he started walking off cause he didn't want someone in their sleeping little town calling the police. Then lo and behold from around the corner come a cruiser and stopped them all. Idiot had marijuana on him. Could beat him myself. He had less than a gram of marijuana on him and he was so drunk he forgot he even had it. Again, I could beat him myself. In Georgia there is no less than a gram charges. It is blanket less than an ounce. So community service, fines and probation. His community service is almost done but have no clue what to do about the fines. He is going to court next week to try to get the fines switched to community service. He needs a job but there is nothing local and he has no car and his dad is a loser so is absolutely no help what so ever.

So as far as I am concerned he did it, he is over 18 and there is nothing I can do to change things so I am not stressing out about it. I support him if he needs my help but he needs to take care of this him self. Kripes it could be worse. He made a friend where he was doing CS and the guy was talking about letting him come stay with him til he can get on his feet and he would help with rides and such. He asks how B feels about drugs on the way home the other day and whips out some meth. B says well won't be living with you. It is absolutely frightening. I can just pray that we imparted the knowledge and the strength to help him do right. I think seeing what drugs did to his dad goes a long way also.

Okay I have blathered on long enough and as usual it took me all day to post lol. Papa is home I hear the garage door opener and Brody is off.

[Beader]

Late to the Party!

Hi All,

OK, now I've finally figured out where everyone's been telling me to post in Emotional Support. Duh. Slow goin'. I've got 32 pages of folks to meet and catch up with, but I'll get there eventually. However, not tonight, dear.

Insurance passed my need for lid lag surgery so I could see above the horizon, so I had that done on Tiesday. BUT, I was already fighting a serious sinus infection which was heading toward my lungs. Anesthesia & eye doc both had to consult to give me the go-ahead & now I wish they hadn't. The lid surgery is way more painful than my previous nine [9] eye surgeries, while the sinus drips have turned into bronchitis. My lids look like red & purple lychee nuts crossed with red onions. I'm tearing nonstop, I can't see thru the smeariness, & I have to use ice packs over my eyes round the clock. I might as well start studying Braille since nothing is in focus -- I can't really read, watch TV, or do anything with my hands. Ay yi yi! :ambivalence: And now it's starting to seriously itch when it's not giving me brain freeze.

Semi demi quasi BF went on to NYC & left me totally in the lurch after swearing he would be around for this surgery. Aaah well, payback is a b...

I promise to return & do better with my intros when I can actually read and type. Looking forward to saying hi.

Sher

[houghchrst]

Well Sher I am glad to see you found us here. I as you know have seen ya around lol.

I will make it short. Your eyes must be absolutely miserable. Yes waiting may have been better. Nothing to do now but take care of yourself. Books on tape! and lots of them lol!

And lots of time to think of deliciously evil ways to get back at your semi demi quasi BF.

[tic chick]

well, first time i've seen you on bt, sher, so happy landings! you are a hoot!

yeah, your eyes are a pain now, but think of how much the world will open up for you once they've healed !

oh yeah, many evil ways to get back at dear bf in the future! perhaps some accidental food spills in his lap because your "depth perception" isn't quite back to normal ? me and chris can think of more good ones, depending on your willingness to do or the depth of your payback desire .

well, today i got rid of a scary guy i had gone out on 3 dates with. reallly the first not quite all there guy i've met so far. i talked to my counselor about what he did on our last date on monday and previous dates and she listened. then when i tried to give reasons as to why he might have done it, she surprised me and said, "jean, i don't want to hear any of that bs! you know what your gut is telling you and you're intelligent. follow your gut, cause i think it's right and i'm worried also."

well.

so, back to the drawing board.

maybe i'll meet a nice guy at the church social tomorrow night....lmao ! right. they are prolly all married. i don't believe single guys go to church socials, but i will flit around a bit and maybe ask questions of my partner in mayhem girlfriend.

it's late. i am finishing that dam floor tomorrow if it kills me. i have so little left to do and i am going to have it measured and get an estimate on monday. then i start cleaning the walls next week.

goodnight and thank you for sharing and caring!
jeannie

[Deedeelyn]

Welcome Sher, Glad you found us and hope you stay with us! So Sorry about your eyes and your BF. But hopefully you will have improvement in both areas.

Jeannie, It's so funny how we make excuses for others even when we know or feel they are not right for us. I'm glad you had your therapist who could help you see where your intuition was kicking in. I struggle in that area of intuition. I always excuse those red flags away. Keep on going, at least your busy and meeting people. Just think of that guy as practice till the real one comes along.

Chris, so far my son, mom and sister have committed to come to my therapy session. Daughter is still hesitant but I hope that changes. It's this coming Wed when we will meet. I hope it turns out well.

I woke from a vivid nightmare so I guess I might as well make use of my morning, turn on the lights and do some reading or something. Try to shake the images in my mind.

Have a good day everyone!
Dee

[Buttons2]

[/B]welcome Sher! hope the eyes improve & the BF either changes his ways or goes away.

well it's sure nice to see green grass again. we lucked out on most of the storm,didn't lose power. now it's into the 40's so am very grateful for that! my furnace should get fixed next week,I stay warm with an electric heater for now.

Dee,I hope the family session goes well.

Jeannie,what type of kitchen floor will you be getting? wish I had your energy!

Chris,your son might be able to pay the fines off with CS. must have given you chills to hear about the meth!

went out to check on stuff in my shop this morning & noticed snow has leaked in from nail holes. nothing I can do but keep wiping off the furniture. expect to have some new leaks in my trailer also. when I look at all the destruction the storm has caused south of here I'm very grateful no trees have fallen or any roof collapse!

wish someone would let us know how Lor is doing.

[houghchrst]

I posted a 'get well' on Lor's page and not long after her daughter posted a pic of the two of them on the 16th of January. Kind of looks like Lor is possibly laying in a hospital bed with a big smile on her face. I am hoping this is a sign of recovery and that she will be with us soon. I think I will PM her daughter but I hate feeling like I am imposing.