What's Happenin'

[sly4626]

Lol Buttons, I so hear you on that. A cheat sheet would be so good! And you know what? Can we all do a brief recap of all our stories? That is if u want to share.

Lets see, I'm someone who's been "diagnosed" with every mental health issue in the book. OCD, depression, anxiety, eating disorder, bipolar disorder, ADHD... And the list goes on and on. My thoughts? Yep OCD an really I think it's been ADHD all along! There are 17 issues that present themselves in adults with ADHD and I fit every criteria. Suffice to say Adderral is a blessing haha!

I'm a dance teacher, fitness instructor and child care person - after 25 years in the business world marketing stuff - I can finally say I love every aspect of what I do. I teach kids and adults - tap, ballet, jazz, Bodypump, cardio, etc.

Married 21 years - my husband is having a mid-life crisis and he is finally leaving real estate after 6 years of financial hell. :( I'm so stressed out that I've been "sick" for about 6 week now - colds, fevers, scratchy voice etc. I really should see a doc ugh. No money though. Nothing coming in but my little $900 a month. I'm in the process of applying for disability. I can't remember stuff and I've been "let go" from several jobs in the biz world because I mess stuff up, can't concentrate etc. you know, they make something up when u know ur going because they saw you have that anxiety attack? No more 70,000 dollars a year jobs for me.

I'm sorry I'm complaining and going on an on! I didn't plan on writing this much ugh!

:) my pride and joy is my 15 year old son who's a sophomore in HS and plays 3 sports. I couldn't have any more kids - invitro didn't work etc but many years ago when I had my last miscarriage at age 39 I came to terms with it all. My boy is everything to me!!!

Bodypump is my saving grace! With all the stuff going on I lost a lot of confidence and it has allowed me to feel much more confident and finally feel good about something I do after all those "failures."

Anyway yep I need to be here. I love to help people. I want to give back all I've learned to help others. That's what it's about!

Enough lol!

Please all, share about yourselves too. I want to know and help support u all in any way I can.

Sorry again for the long post - it just came out and I wen with it. :)

Love to all,

Sly

[mrsjerome]

I saw this written somewhere and think it really applies to the BT Forums:

People don't always need advice Sometimes
all they really need
is a hand to hold,
an ear to listen,
and a heart to
Understand them

[mrsjerome]

A brief biography of myself:
I was born and raised in Wis. And lived here my entire life. I will be married 52 years this Jan. My husband came here from another state. We met dancing and married a year later. We had 5 children (4 boys and 1 girl). Our oldest son is autistic and non verbal. He was diagnosed at a time when that word was little known or unheard of in the community. At present he resides in a group home approximately 80 miles from me. We also have 8 Grand-Children and 1 Great-Grand-Daughter that is 18 months.

For those that visit the alzheimers forum ,you have read of the off and on struggles. My husband had a colloid cyst removed from his brain about 12 years ago. Unfortunately their were complications such as a stroke and seizures afterwards. He was in my care for about 9 years . Then when he began having urological problems (these were problems that led to self catherization) it really drove him off the edge. When I could no longer manage with his behavior, it was recommended that I place him in a NH. He is there today. This past year his mobility, health, and mental awareness have shown a decline.

I have arthritis and presently am going for therapy on the muscle of the knee that I had replacement on. My other knee might also need surgery but I don’t know if I would get that done. I had a difficult time with the previous one and don’t think I would want to be laid up that long and go through that experience again. I had a prolapse surgery last year. I am not as mobile as once was but still can get around by myself.

Take Care
mrs j

[Jo6]

Now Sly, we don't call it complaining and going on and on with our problems. Emotional Support, thats what this forum is for, eh?

Thank you Sly for giving us an update. Most of us aren't as young as we used to be so it never hurts to repeat, now does it? Of course not. Thank you for your update and also for Mrs.J's update.

now, Joy, stop saying your hair cut is ugly! I have worn mine short for many years and don't have a clue as to how to change it so I guess I'll keep it short. I married young, had 4 kids, couldn't stand my X, so divorced him. My daughter started having problems with not eating, to the point of being anorexria. She finally was able to tell one of her councelor's her bio dad had molested her, many times over when she was very young.

What horror we all went thru. When she was in her late 20's she finally decided she wanted to live. I have 3 sons and just the 1 daughter.

Already knew Ken, he worked for me in a TV sales and repair shop. He had just gotten out of the Navy, was back in Clemson to finish his degree. It seems we both had feeling's for each other, but we acted proper while he worked for me. lol
We married, it will be 36 years this Dec. the 29th. He had never married, had no children, He often told others he married me and my 4 kids. I will have to say, I grumble and gripe about him, but he has been the prefect father figure to the kids could have ever had. They all love him dearly, also the grands. Most of the grands don't even know he is their step-grandfather. We don't avoid it, it just doesn't come up.

I owened and operated a Catering Shoppe for years, enjoyed my work and have many stories I would like to write one day. My Mom got sick, she had brain cancer. I decided to close the shop and go spent the last days with her. She had surgery, the nero s. didn't think it was malegnant, but he was wrong. She lived only about 7 or 8 months from the time we discovered the cancer until she passed away. May God rest her soul.

About a year later Ken's Mom was diag. with Alzhiemer's. She lived with us , but my health was bad, Ken insisted his 2 sisters help with her care. That didn't last long. She was beginning to get violent and I couldn't handle her. We had to place her in a NH.
It really got hard before she died. She fell and broke her hip and had to have surgery. Two days later she had a stroke. The next 4+ yrs. she was bed ridden and couldn't talk. Those years until she died were very hard. Ken and I had a hard time getting along. So much stress, Neither one of us were very good at controlling that.

I started losing my siblings. I had 3 brothers and 3 sisters. My oldest bro., Ben died first, then a niece, a newphew, another bro. then the most heart breaking was my sister I called Lady Caroline.

I was sick when she died, I managed to get to the mortuary to receive friends, Got to funeral home for the service, but was so sick I was in the lounge at the Funeral Home.
Ken took me to ER, I was there for 10 days. They didn't pay attention to Kens notes about my meds. I take everyday. I had a horrible seizure, I didn't remember anything about where I was, why ect. It was not a pleasant time. I am still trying to put things together, but not much help.
Finally my second son, the one that sat by my bedside whenever Ken was gone told me they thought I had given up and he did not expect to see me Whenever he left.

It has been a long climb back up, but I'm getting there. I find myself feeling closer to all my close friends here at Brain Talk. I was very happy to see you, Sly. I remembered you and that made me very happy.

I have a lot of health problems, but will save that for another time. I get tired easy and I'm zooming down now.

Sly, it is a good idea for us to talk to each other and keep in touch. Yes, it's a shame we can't have the dates when we joined and the count of post we all had.

I'm having a hard time getting ready for Christmas. First time in years I don't feel the need to help a couple of my kids have money to spend for their children.

I may come back and delete this, but I want to tell all of y'all. Since we didn't have Thanksgiving the kids were all invited to their uncles home, ((their bio uncle's)) home to see their grandmother on their Dad's side. She just turned 92 and she wanted to see the kids. We always encouraged the kids to keep in touch with their grandparents on that side of the family. They treated Ken and me like we were family still. ((BTW, none of the kids have anything to do with their bio father.))
Anyway, their grandmother gave all of them a card and I have no idea what it said, but she also gave each a check for $$$$,$$ of $'s. All the kids would tell me about the card was that grandmother was getting ready to die and she was saying good-by. I was happy for the kids and I hope they use it wisely
So, Ken and I tried not to let the kids know how hurt we were about having to cancel Thanksgiving.

Lord willing and the creek don't rise we will have Christmas!!

We are both still sick, Dr. has sent Ken to an ENT Dr. and I'll be seeing my Pulmonary on Wed. He will probably put me back on steriods. If it helps me feel better I am ready to take them and not complain. I'm worried about Ken, he has never been sick but a hand full of times in his whole life.

Me, I stay sick with any # of things wrong with me. I count my blessings though and I am thankful for having all of you to talk with. Sly, I also want to give back what BT has given me. If you need any of us, just yell. We are all thick skined and we take turns holding each other up when it's needed. You are one of us and I am very happy you have come back home.

I lovew you all, Julia s

[sly4626]

Julia, how sweet you are. :) I'm so glad you didn't delete your post!!!

Gosh I wish you guys were feeling better. I work at the Y and we had 2 cases of pink eye and 1 case of chicken pox all announced this week.

It'll be good for Ken to see the ENT. Really if you want to get to the bottom of this icky ness that's going around I guess u have to go the specialist.

Christmas! I'm praying you guys can have it! I'm done shopping for my son and because money is so tight we're not going to exchange gifts all around. To me it's all about just hanging out together. My favorite time is watching my son open his gifts every year.

My computer has pretty much died - it says the date is December 31, 1969? I'm yeah, that's not right! Haha. So I use my iPhone as a computer now. So all the typing I'm doing now hurts. It's like thumb carpal tunnel syndrome hahahah!

Anyway I'm here and feel blessed by the fact that I have a place to come and complain if I need to. :)

Friday tomorrow - hope u guys are all having a good week.

XO,
Sly

[tic chick]

hey all ,

okay sly, you want a cheat sheet, you got it !

i've been here at bt since about 2000, hung out exclusively in the chatrooms. i've have tourette syndrome since i was about 8, it's a tic disorder that begin's in childhood to early teen years. they say it's inherited, but no one else in my immediate family has it. i have several "umbrella disorder's" that almost always come with ts, different ones for different people. i have ocd (i try and ignore that with varying degrees of success), anxiety and panic attacks since age 19 (controlled with drugs for the last 28 years), the winter blues and hypothyroidisn, which i take meds for...all good there. i would say i have a moderate case of ts.

i have 3 adult children. a son that's 34 and lives with me, a daughter that's 32 and lives in new york and a daughter that's 27 and live's by herself about 40 miles from me. all of them work, pay taxes and as far as i know, have never been in any kind of trouble, save for a few ticket's for having a heavy foot on the gas pedal . i was married for 34 years, got a legal separation from my husband in october 2011. same pain as a divorce, same division of assets. i bought our house from him. i asked him to leave this year in june and so he did.

i am transforming my yard into a perennial flower paradise. i'm teaching myself about plants and i do a lot of heavy work by myself. i have maintained a 92 pound weight loss for 6 years, currently i am down 97 and trying to lose maybe 15 more. i read, take a hustle dance class on wednesday's, have friend's i go out with and lead a generally satisfying life. i am medical power of attorney for my mom, who will be beginning her 5th year in a nursing home with severe alzheimer's dementia. she doesn't know who i am or who anyone is in our family. my dad is still kicking and pretty sharp at age 88.

i have forgiven my mom for not being the mom i wanted and generally ignoring me as a child. i have forgiven my dad for physically and verbally abusing me as a child. i'll never have the relationship i wanted with my mom, but God has given me the relationship i always wanted with my dad now and i am blessed by this.

i shop on ebay for lot's of unusual stuff for my house and i confess i am a shoe-a-holic. i have 2 dog's, both about 70 pound's apiece, both about 7 year's old. nick is a male black lab/rottie mix, a stray dog we took in when we found him shaking in our yard during a summer thunderstorm. he is a sweetie pie. we already had nora, a female german-short-haired pointer. she is active as crazy and thinks she's the alpha person here, but i keep trying to convince her I'M THE BOSS!

hope everyone's cheat sheet is filling up! sly, i'm so happy you are back and glad you are going to give a shot at staying around. we all need each other...

(((hugs))),
jeannie

if you click on my name "tic chick" on this post, you'll get a menu that has "view profile" on it and you can click on that. i have a pic of myself there and some more info.

[Jo6]

got KEn home he is a bit grouchy Dr. put tube in 1 ear
will have drops in 2 Times a day. guess who will get to do the crocheting me of course. he gave the be rright back.......

[Jo6]

Wow, my spellng gets worse by the day. Sorry so long in getting back.

Let me just start with why the post was so screwy. Kris Kringle brought me a KindleFire HD. Its light weight, I can hold it laying on the bed or in my lounge chair. It was very sweet of Ken to surprise me with this. The trouble is I'm having a hard time figuring out all ther little do dads.

He had already put Brain Talk on it and all I have to do is click on it. lol I logged in and now when I go to BT it is already to go. When I leave it logs me out. Y'all can tell I know nothing about electronics.

I thought I would send a short note and check in. We are both still alive, but both still sick. I have not done much shopping, don't know when I will feel up to it. After all the help that was promised I have not seen nor heard from anybody, except my sweet Israel.

I know I can count on him. He came by this morning for a few mins. He has had tubes in his ears so many time when he was younger. He got a kick out of Papa's joking with him and how he helped him to get thru that ordeal. Oh boy do I have some funny things Israel did when he was young. Won't bore you with them now. Ryleigh may just pay back a few of the things he did. She loves her Dad and so sweet doing everything she see's him do.

Ken told me this morning that we may not be able to do the Christmas usual, him cooking breakfast for everybody and me just roaming around trying to talk to everybody.

I understand , he is much sicker than he lets on to anybody, but I know better.I'm very concered about him. The Pulmonary Dr. wanted to use the light down and see what is going on with my lungs. I said I was feeling some better and finally gave me 3 or 4 other scripts to go with the rest of the drugstore I take.

Of course one of them was Prednisone. I will be taking it thru Christmas. I've complained enough so y'all know how I hate taking it, but is sounded better than the light thing.

So, I understood exactly what Ken meant about Christmas, but I will hold out on that if I have to make one of the kids do the breakfast thing. We have done this for thirty something years and I really will be sad to not have our family here.

We'll work something out. I think about all the sadness that happened in the school shooting I am at loss what to say except my heart aches for all involved. Someone pegged it right last night when they said that evil came to this school today..my prayers are with them and for them and I can hardly speak of it without crying.

So, I have so many blessings to count I almost feel guilty. I have my family, have lost as few over the past few years, but we all will go someday, but I'm working on being around here for a long time.

I'm very thankful for my loved ones here at Brain Talk. You all are part of my family and I am blessed.

When I get better with the Kindle I'll write some more on BT. My fingers are too fat and I dooooooooo this a lot. lol

Yes, I am very blessed and thank God for bringing all of you into my life. I hope all are feeling as best you can, but know we are all in this together, ok?

My prayers and love I send to all of you. Julia s

[joy]

it is sooo good to hear from you Jo. i am sorry you and ken are not feeling well. so take that bucket load of pills so you can get better. i just got chocked on mine and am still trying to quit coughing and all. I wasn't sleeping at all and thought i might as well take what i had not took when i did go to bed (but no sleep yet)

hubby and i have been to two good christmas parties and had good food. i have a tree up but not fully decorated yet. by the time i finish with it all, it will be time to take it down.

enjoy your new toy and tell me more about it. it sounds like a neat ideal and it was sweet of ken to get it for you. glad he is taking care of BT's girl, lol, we might all form a comitte to come get him if he doesn't. it would not be braintalk with our jo. i hope everyone else is well and farther along on getting Christmas gift bought than hubby and i are.

[Buttons2]

Sly,thanks for the info. and thanks for everyone posting here!

my heart is heavy for the grief going on in Conn. right now.

will make an effort to write later.

[Jo6]

Yes Pati, it is beyond heartache. I can not find words and I have to make myself turn the channel.

Take care dear one. I will write you one day. Oh course you can write me too. lol


yes, my baby called me to see what the DRs. had to say and do when we went to the Drs. last end. He is a real sweetie to call home and check on us.

[sly4626]

Hi everyone! I don't want to go to long without writing so here I am. I've made the commitment to be here - and I am honoring it. :)

I unfortunately don't have a lot of time to write either right now but I will be back!

Jeannie, I want to see pictures of your garden! I kill plants lol. I once killed a cactus haha. Really! I just can't seem to remember to water things hehe.

You have maintained a weight loss of 92 pounds, Jeannie?! That is awesome! Good for you!!

I like this cheat sheet idea - it's great!

I stood here for about 15 minutes tonight looking at my son's stats from the last basketball game. Top scorer - 15 points and 8 steals. OMG I am so proud. He's really good I mean I don't think I really have realized just how good he really is. Wow. So proud.

Julia - I'm praying you guys get better soon. :( I hope you can work something out with Christmas. I mean it'll be special no matter what. I say start a new tradition this year? Make your kids do all the work? Haha just kidding. Please know I'm praying for you guys

For all of you!

I too am blessed and at time I feel selfish too. Tonight was our dance recital at the Y. My little 3 year olds did so good! What sweet kids they are. Again, blessed.

Well now I really have to go. Almost 12 am and I have to be up at 6:30! Ugh I'm such a night owl. Like my dad who's always up until 2 am and thinks nothing of calling me at a time like this and waking up the whole household haha. Not that often does he call but when he does its cool.

I have so much on my mind. Please pray that my husband gets a job soon. I don't k ow how much I've told you about that but thanks.

I'm with you guys! Pulling for all of you!

Love,
Sly

[sly4626]

Oh and about those poor little babies... Heartbreaking. Why do people do things like this?? Just not right. Kids are innocent of everything at such a young age like that. May they all rest in peace. XO

Love,
Sly

[tic chick]

hey all !

sly, if you go to the "Chit Chat" forum, there is a thread i bumped up for you called, ""What's Growin'". chris started it and it has a bunch of pics from our yards this past summer! take a peek!

jeannie

[Buttons2]

repair guy just left. now my housemate has spent over 2,000 on the furnace in my trailer.....makes me feel guilty of course. why? he has more money than I do!

Sly,I like the idea of someone here being able to MOVE physically. seems years ago since I could myself. will hope your DH does get a job soon. must be nervewracking to say the least.

snow storms today,etc. could be affecting many of you-be safe OK?

it's so wet near the woods we had to move the feeder for the deer. had 3 here last night. hopefully they will all survive the winter & bring their fawns for a visit next spring.

I'm finished with my shopping. have a Filson's here now so got some good deals there. wondering if we even have any wrapping paper?

hope everyone missing is lurking at least. Chris,sure do miss you!