What's Happenin'

[Buttons2]

Mrs. J,I believe we end of caring for anyone in our life that needs us regardless of age. the SIL hopefully enjoys good health herself? this is a very sad time for her & I hope she has emotional support right now.

Sly,welcome!

[joy]

so sorry for your loss. cancer has no respect for age or anything else much in my book. of course i learned this lesson very early on in my life and my opinion has changes for the better just a tad, but not much. imy brother has cancer, the kind i hope that ddoes well with the right treatment etc, i only hope it was caught ealy enough.

i can still remember the day long years ago when i was young, brother was driving us (in daddys car at that) back to the va to see daddy in casncer ward. that happened to e the day that volunteers were standimg at intersections with buckets collecting donations. i remember my brother saying in a quiet voice, - we are making a donation already, meaning dad. brother seems to be handling it ok but at that i am sure he is nervous and antsy enough. i know i am. take care all.

[clouds z]

thats sad cancer seems to take many--dont eat too much and avoid gmo foods

[tic chick]

hey everyone !

sly, it's so nice to see you back! i hope everything has been going well for you lately. could you give us an update on what's happening in your life? anything you care to share? how is your son doing? i remember he was playing baseball last year summer, did he continue that this year? i also remember you were making jewelry and trying to get into some type of regular exercise program? how is all that going? i don't remember if your hubby had just been unemployed, but i hope he is working steadily. i am happy you found us here...you are remembered!

mrsjerome, i'm sorry to hear about your niece and your sil must be very sad to have her daughter die. it's always painful when a parent has to watch a child die. i pray i never have to experience that. my condolences to your family.

i'm slowing down a bit, as it got very cold after hurricane sandy passed here. we did have 2 very windy days and 3 days of rain, so this was one mighty powerful storm. my daughter lives in brooklyn but i don't think she lives by the east river anymore. i saw pictures of streets flooded about 3 feet close to the east river. i called my daughter before sandy hit and made sure she had plans for safety. i am sure she stayed with friends instead of alone in her apartment. i saw a post from her on facebook the day aftr the storm, so i knew she was okay. the the northeaster hit several days later. i'm sure that was additional heartache on top of sandy.

i have some little things to finish up in the yard, i'll do them today and this week as it's supposed to be nice weather. i've gotten out my stationary bike and started riding on it for about 40 minutes most days. i went out walking/jogging earlier last week on a nice sunny, but cold day. i also have just a little painting left. i will do that before christmas.

i was at our eastern market here in detroit and there was a woman selling grapevine christmas trees that she makes. they range from table top size to about 6 feet tall. they are a bit pricey, about $120 for the tall one, but they last for a very long time (she said 10-15 years, if you keep them in the house). i love the idea of decorating a grapevine christmas tree. no going out to get a tree, no watering it everyday and then throwing it away. this just appeals to me so much as an alternative christmas tree and i think i'm going to buy one next week!

i hope you all have a nice thanksgiving, it is a blessing to be alive, even with all the probs we have .

thank you for caring and sharing,
jeannie

i just saw this in the epilepsy forum, and it is so sad. mike weins posted it:

It is with a heavy heart that I post this thread I just saw a message on my Facebook page stating that Phyllis passed away suddenly on October 2nd 2012. Her sister left the message, along with the message she left a url which I will post below. I have asked her if I may pass along her contact info and if she agrees I will pass it along PM here at BT.

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phyllis was known as "Ponygirl".

[Buttons2]

good to read a post from you Jeannie! nothing happening around here. guess that's a good thing? don't like the cold weather much. only have some pansies left to look at now. at least it's back to green everywhere I look.

it's football day again.....

[joy]

i have made wreaths out of wild vines but trees must take a lot og work. I'd love to see your grapevine tree Jeannie. I know if you decorate, it will be a knockout.

[clouds z]

im sorry to hear ponygirl died and so young
rest in peace

[sly4626]

Pony girl passed away? :( oh no so sad. :( I just read the obit. Gosh so young and I do remember that she was disabled. Always sweet person here from what I remember. So sad. Does anyone know what happened? Complications of spina bifida? :(

[sly4626]

Thanks Buttons. I've been away for a while. Came back to share the love, thoughts and prayers.

[sly4626]

Me again. Just learned pony girl's name was Phyllis. I so remember her. Gosh so sad.

Jeannie! How sweet u r 2 remember me. That's why I come back to this place - because I know you all really genuinely care about each other and any person who stops by.

It's true - things are kind of ick and that's when I realize I need help and that I want and need 2 help others too.

Jeannie, let's see. Yes my son played baseball this past spring/summer and just finished up with football season about a month ago. He had his 1st basketball game last night! He's a sophomore now! So proud of my boy.

No jewelry for me anymore. I tend to pick things up, get really excited and then drop them. (I'm working on this, hehe.) as far as exercise, yes! I am teaching about 13 classes a week. Fitness and dance. I finally got my Bodypump certification this past spring! Hard work - spent a lot of time freaking out about it all but things are going really well.

Not feeling so good now. Lots of anxiety, OCD issues, depressed. U guys know the drill. :(

How are all of u? Makes me feel good to come here and read about all that's going on. U guys care so much.

I plan to stick around - Need to. :)

Sly

[Buttons2]

I'm also curious about what actually happened to Phyllis. she was always so obessed with dying early. she was having alot of medication issues.it's just plain sad.

nothing new going on here. glad turkey day is over. my dog and my grand dog got into another fight! watched alot of football games.

went to the dentist to get 2 teeth pulled,well he had to give up on one of them. not sure just what to think now?guess wait & see.

glad to see some posts on here!

[Jo6]

My Broom

I finally got my broom winterized so thought I would take a buzz around BT.

Well, I did find an old friend. Her name is Sly! I am so glad you came back my dear. It always makes me nervous to find my friends just go ((poof)).

It was worth the trip to just see you Sly. I was wondering about your son also. I'm glad he is into sports. I think it is good if they are healthy. Give him a hug form me, please?

Yes, I'm afraid most of us do know ((that drill)) all too well. We just try to encourage each other and I find it helps my depression!

I'm sorry things aren't better for you, but keep comming and know we all care. Again, I am very happy to see you.

You see, I have such a hard time keeping my train of thought . So, if I act wonky tell Pati and she will get me some help! I love that girl. ((Pati)).

I love you all and hope to be back more often. It gets lonely here when things get slow here in ESF

I love you all and so happy to see you Sly.

all my love, Jo s

[Jo6]

Clouds, it was a total shock to me and I find I can not stop thinking about her.

She was a very special friend to many, always seem to find things to make you smile.

We shall miss her, but she is out of her suffering. For that we can be thankful.

Jo

[tic chick]

hey everyone !

sly, i'm so glad you got your bodypump certification, congrats ! i remember you were deciding about that and wondering if you could do it. your son must love sports ! i think it's great when high-schoolers find an area of interest. it keeps them motivated in their studies also and out of trouble. i always saw where my children's interest led them and then i supported them in that area in whatever way i could. my son played sport's and was in band, my middle daughter was into art and my other daughter was into dancing and volleyball. I'm glad you came back! we are always here for you (we're all basically in the same boat).

pati, your dentist couldn't pull one of your teeth? is it hurting? i hope you get that resolved.

i had a quiet thanksgiving with my 2 grown-up children (i feel weird calling them "my children" cause they are not children...how about "my adults"? nah. i didn't think so.).

i think it is so sad about phyllis. i know she was having issues with her epilepsy medication and i think her shunt also. i hope she was not alone when she died. phyllis was afraid of dying and i hope she had some happy days among those days filled with anxiety. i don't know what to say except what i always say, which is to live each day to the fullest, cause today is the only day we have.

i have to find all the christmas stuff...i found some candles this summer downstairs in a box, i was looking for them last year, but i looked upstairs where i put my other christmas stuff...i don't know why i put them downstairs. my house has been turned upside down as i get rid of stuff, ex-husband's, furniture and shred mail that has anything identifying on it. i missed my bulk garbage pick-up because it was the day after the election and i FORGOT about it cause i was up past 1am watching election coverage. now i have some stuff in my driveway. i am putting some of it in my garbage can every week and i know i'm going to have to take some of it to the dump. i'm just kicking myself that i forgot that pick-up.

so, i am thinking of ending therapy soon, probably beginning of spring, unless something else happens. i'm feeling stronger and able to handle things now. i originally went to therapy to deal with feelings about my mom. then my not-so-great marriage got worse and i had to leave to save myself. i thank you all for helping me with my "mom" issues and supporting me in the alzheimer's forum. i don't talk much about the ex cause i don't want to throw him under the bus. he needs help, he won't get it. i cannot control what he does, but i do not have to let him drag me down, so i let go. the last 4 year's have been difficult, sad and sometimes unbearable. almost 3 years of arguing with my mom when she still knew she was in the nh and wanted to go home. dealing with my sister who has an addiction problem and her sudden concern to "tell my mom the truth" , that i could get my mom out of the nh. making decision's about mom's healthcare, not letting her have surgery. it was a load to bear. now, mom doesn't know who any of her family is, doesn't care she's in the nh...she truly lives in "this" moment. maybe this is peace, just taking care of her needs and letting what's going to happen just unfold.

so, thank you for being here for me, even when i wasn't . i have just a bit to do before my bathroom is finished. the kitchen backsplashes will be tiled after christmas, because it is a big job, i am doing it myself and i don't want to rush. i do a lot of stuff myself to save money. i cannot do plumbing and electrical work, so i have to pay for that.

thank you for caring and sharing ,
jeannie

christmasbells2.jpg
(because there was snow on the ground this morning and it made me feel christmasey)

[Buttons2]

I often think of all of you here. those missing-such as Chris. those gone like Tootsie,Demi (only guessing) and now Phyllis. I like to think of them being free of physical pain/disability,and finding true peace. Phyllis was only 44 y.o. my oldest son's age!

Jeannie,sounds like the kitchen project is nearly finished. good for you. I think my son's will always be considered "boys" even though in fact they are both grown men. hope you will continue to share pic's with us of your mantel,etc. this year.

would anybody believe me if I told you the swallows are still here & making new nests? thinking the bird blocks will NEVER get put up! must be climate change?

years ago I planted a cotoneaster. it's such a pretty color right now. needs to be trimmed back again & sweep the berries up. it began as a single limb I snitched from my dad.

hope we can keep this going here on BT. guess those days of super activity are over for whatever reasons. I just want to say it's been a wonderful lifeline for me for several years & I appreciate everyone that has always been so supportive & genuine. we may never meet in person but we do have a bond that will be with us forever.